Sexuality- What's Your Flavour?

 I learned a new word last weekend, and it took me by surprise because I like to think I'm pretty current with these things.  The term is "sapiosexuality", and it refers to a person who's sexually attracted to intelligence in others. I read a study a while ago that surveyed women of different sexual orientations or preferences and found it really interesting, so I decided to expand beyond this single term and cover the different ways in which people experience or express their sexuality.

Before I get into this it's important for me to say that first and foremost we're all just people. I don't look at someone first as straight or gay bi or whatever, I look at everyone as human. All equally. This post isn't an exercise in attempting to label people, just explore the different types of sexual orientation:

*heterosexual- one who is romantically and physically attracted to members of the
                                    opposite sex

*homosexual- one who is romantically and physically attracted to members of the
                                    same sex

*bisexual- one who is romantically and physically attracted to members of both
                         sexes

*bi-curious- one of hetero or homosexual orientation who shows some
                              curiosity in having a relationship or sexual activity with a person of
                              the sex they do not favor, yet distinguish themselves from the bisexual
                              label. (By the way if you're bi-curious and want to get some information
                             anonymously I found an excellent website, ShyBi. Not surprisingly it's
                             geared mainly towards women.

*asexual- one who, while typically lacking in sexual desire for either sex,
                        may engage in purely emotional romantic relationships.Terms applied to
                        this:

• aromantic: lack of romantic attraction towards anyone of any gender
• biromantic: romantic attraction towards people of either gender
• heteroromantic: romantic attraction towards people of the opposite
  gender
• homoromantic: romantic attraction towards people of the same gender
• panromantic: romantic attraction towards people of any gender or lack of gender
• transromantic: romantic attraction towards people of variant or ambiguous gender
• polyromantic: romantic attraction towards people of more than one gender or sex but without implying, like biromantic does, that there are only two genders or sexes

*sapiosexual- one who is sexually attracted to intelligence in others. I've also seen
                                  it more specifically explained as someone who finds intelligence to
                                  be the most sexually attractive feature in a person. By definition I
                                  believe the subject of this attraction could be someone of any
                                  sexual orientation.

*fluid- orientation isn't always static; we're influenced by different people and events
                 in our lives. As we go through life we may find that our orientation will shift.
                Today you could be bisexual and equally attracted to men and women, but in
                time you may find that this has shifted and you're more attracted to women.
                This changing orientation is known as fluid sexuality. For some, their
                orientation will change several times in their life.

*hetero-flexible- one who is predominantly heterosexual but engages in limited
                                         homosexual activity.  This is distinguished by some as being
                                         separate from bisexuality or bi-curiosity since there is usually
                                         the lack of a wish to "experiment" with their sexuality. To me
                                         this is one of the more ambiguous categories.

*pansexual/omnisexual- one who has the potential for sexual or romantic
                                                            attraction towards people of all gender identities.
                                                            Some pansexuals say that gender and sex are
                                                            irrelevant in determining whether they are sexually
                                                            attracted to others.
     
*polyamorous- one who practices, desires, or accepts having more than one
                                      intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent
                                      of everyone involved. Polyamourists typically reject the view
                                      that sexual and emotional exclusivity are necessary for deep, 
                                     committed long-term loving relationships.


  So there you go. This is only a partial list, and anyone who has studied human sexuality will recognize that I've oversimplified some terms. But you get the idea.


 
References:  -"Why Women Have Sex" by Cindy M. Meston, Ph.D. and
                                David M. Buss,, Ph.D.
                               -ShyBi a website that promotes itself as "a non-threatening, safe and
                                sleaze-free forum just for bi and bi-curious girls exploring their
                                bisexuality"
                             -Wikipedia: various articles
                             - internet: bits of info taken from various sites